In these days of the Hell Challenge, I started
wondering where kids learn it from
When I was in first grade, I remember quite
vividly being outside during morning recess with my "boyfriend" (yes,
kids are talking about these things at this age) running around and enjoying
life. I remember someone coming up to us
and asking what I thought was a ridiculous question. My reply was "Hell naw!" And boy, virtually everyone on the nearby
monkey bars within listening range took over from there…."Awwwwwwwwww! She said a curse word!" Of course some practically fell over
themselves trying to get to the nearest teacher. And of course, my freedom was taken from me-
or at least my recess freedom. I had to
stand on the wall for the remaining recess periods the duration of the
day. I remember how puzzled I felt. My parents, who both had leadership roles at
our church, had told me that hell was where you were going if you were not
saved. I'd heard my mom say the phrase many times before so I figured there should
be no problem in saying it. So why was I
missing my recess? Were these people such heathens that they couldn't stand to
even hear the word describing where they might be going? These thoughts swirled around my mind all day
until the teacher told me that I could participate in the final free-time
activity if I'd apologized. I stood and
gave a very enthusiastic answer:
NO. I felt I was indeed the
victim. The teacher, sensing that I was
not feeling apologetic about the matter decided to call my mother. "I guess I'll be letting your mom know
then," she said confidently. My mom
was very active in the school PTA group so the teacher knew I'd change my act
once my mom got involved. Surely, she'd knock some sense into me. Imagine her mouth dropping when my mom said
"We don't believe, or teach her that hell is a curse word. It is simply
where the unsaved is going." The
teacher gathered her jaw from the floor and tried to regain composure and
control, "Well, we do not approve of that phrase in school."
My mom told me just not to say it around
school anymore. I always had better
sense than to say, What the Hell around my mom, so I never had an issue with
that. I understand that the phrase might
have a different connotation, so I didn't dare use it until I became an
adult. But my 3 year old son has decided
that saying, 'what the hell' is his new choice phrase. Where he learned it
from? I cannot pinpoint a direct source. But since he's started using it, my
ears have been sensitized, and I now notice that so many places use variations
of the phrase. Some had me a bit surprised.
- Grandparents - this one isn't surprising. My parents have always said it. I've asked them to refrain until my son matures, but understandingly it's been rough for them to reverse 40-50 years of saying a phrase.
- Disney - Now this was surprising. While watching his favorite movies, Cars 2 and Toy Story 3, I heard the phrase, "What the…?" multiple times. I believe Mater says it multiple times, but I know he says it when the computer is changing his disguise to a 'monster' truck, and on Toy Story 3, the janitor of Sunnyside says it while in the bathroom cleaning. Immediately, my son repeats it. They seem to like phrases that express emotions at this age, and oftentimes learn those words or phrases first. I've even heard the phrase used during a Disney Jr. cartoon.
- Other kids at daycare or school - As kids learn from adults, they widely use what they've learned with or against their peers in this setting. Chances are that your child will pick up one or more of those bad habits.
- Your daily news channel - While watching the latest "Breaking News" an analyst used the full-out phrase, What the hell. And who was right there with me to instantly repeat it?? Yep, my son. What the hell?!

What do we do now? Well I spend a good 1-2 minutes directly
after hearing my son repeat the phrase trying to explain that it's not what we
should say. Although sometimes he still
says it, he remembers quickly after that it shouldn't be said, "Oh, sorry
mommy." At other times when he's
more alert, he will scold whomever said it in the same fashion I use with
him: "No Mater, No Grandma, we
don't say, 'what the'…You can say, What?! Instead. " It works for
now. It's hard trying to tell your 2-3
year of child that using the word hell isn't appropriate for some people, when
it's widely used around you.
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